Have you ever wondered whilst looking at Facebook or scrawling through Instagram that everybody else seems to have a better life than you, they seem to be doing it better than you are? Whilst maybe you feel anxious, worried, full of guilt and stress. You feel you’re running on empty, completely depleted of energy and overwhelmed with the feeling “you just don’t know anything anymore".
If this is how you feel then I have three tips for you that it could potentially change everything about how you are feeling right now, today. So here we go
Tip No 1
No amount of bubble baths, girls’ weekends or glasses of wine are going to change the way that you feel. You are burnt out and no amount of self-care is going to change the way that you feel. Burnout is not your fault, it’s in part because of the way society treats us, we are consistently bombarded with different messages telling us what we should be and what we should do.
You need to be honest with yourself about how you are feeling and why you are feeling this way. You need to let go of the image of perfection, you are not the perfect mother, you’re not the perfect wife, and you are not the perfect employee. Perfection does not exist. You can only be the best that you can be. How do you do that? Start to be honest about what your true priorities are in life, focus on what your top priority in life really is. If your priority is work then don’t feel guilty about working, don’t feel guilty about going to work and don’t feel guilty about putting work first, it’s perfectly okay to do that. If your top priority is your family then don’t feel guilty about putting your family first, above work, above friendships, above everything else. Be truly happy with your authentic self about who you want to be.
Tip No 2
Often when we are in burnout, we become detached, we withdraw from our close, supportive relationships, we feel that we can’t be bothered, it's too much effort, often this detachment leads to anxiety and depression.
Start to reach out to those who are closest to you, your partner, your family, your friends. Open up to them about your true feelings and what’s happening in your life. Those loved ones will be flattered that you trust them enough to confide in them and it will strengthen your friendships and your relationships. When you spend time with your loved ones make sure that it’s a positive, enjoyable time, make it fun and remember to start smiling and laughing once again.
Tip No 3
Work can be a major cause of burnout often you feel you don’t have control, you don’t get recognition, there is no reward for the good work you do.
Try to find value in your work, focus on how much the task is needed, either for your clients, your patients or even others in your organisation. Try to change the way you look at the tasks, remember it is important the work that you do, changing your viewpoint can mean you can regain some sense of purpose and control.
Having the perfect life, trying to be perfect, isolating yourself from loved, losing control at work means overwhelm, stress and anxiety. We no longer seem them as a badge of honour or success, now is the time to change, the time to rise up to your calling, to step out and to step up to change not only the world you live in, but the world that lives within you.
If now is the time for you to make a change then please click on the button below to book a free 30-minute call with me. I’d love to talk to you about stopping the burnout and gaining that balance that you crave for your life.
If you click on the button it will take you to a page where if you leave me your name, email address and telephone number, I’ll be able to contact you to set up that free 30 minute call so we can start taking those next steps.
I look forward to hearing from you and for us starting a new exciting, life changing journey together.
Elizabeth Pickering is a Resilience coach, who helps people find resilience within themselves to inspire, lead and motivate themselves both at home and at work to avoid burnout, stress and exhaustion.