Energy Vampires, Drainers - whatever you want to call them, but they zap your energy and leave you feeling drained and exhausted.
I found there are 4 major drainers - what are they and what do you do about them?
Whether they are the drama queens (my boyfriend has left me….), the egomaniacs (it's all about me, me and then me) or the dependents (I need constant reassurance, and I'm not your child). You find them in all shapes and sizes, but you know them, because when you've finished a conversation, you feel like you need a lie down!
So how to handle them?
Always be kind, but if you feel you're getting sucked in, then be short and clear you're not comfortable talking about whatever.
Try and understand where they are coming from and acknowledge what they say is important.
Be positive and give good constructive feedback to them.
Remember kindness is always the key.
Whether it's drinking too much coffee or alcohol, eating too much fast food, staying up too late - not enough sleep, not drinking enough water, not exercising or excising too much.
How we treat our bodies could mean serious health consequences, yet we continue to ignore what we are telling ourselves.
Being kind to our bodies and giving it what it really needs is one of the best ways of keeping our energy up.
The way you choose your environment has a significant impact on your energy. Often a noisy, messy environment can sap our energy, unfinished projects both at work and at home can sap you too.
What to do
a good clear out of all your clutter is a great start.
Donate clothes, unfinished projects, make room in your life for something new.
Your thought life
Negative thoughts about ourselves, that self-talk which is a constant in our thoughts, if it's negative can bring with it anxiety, worry and stress. It's been known to bring on physical pain and ailments
What to do
When you catch those negative thoughts, replace immediately with a positive thought.
Here is a list of the top 60 most common pests that drain your energy
Do you recognise any of them?
Negative people, Family conflict, No friends, Unanswered messages, Outstanding letters, No sex, Forgiveness wanted, Relationship ending, Relationship starting, Lacking confidence.
Dirty Car, Cluttered Cupboards, Wrong environment, broken items, Excess television, World events, Image Hygiene, Feeling board, Mind clutter.
Poor diet, Low self-esteem, Avoiding dentists, Lack of sleep, Avoiding doctors, Negative thoughts, Illegal activities, No hobbies, Lacking faith, Telling lies.
Always unpunctual, Missing deadlines, Poor productivity, Difficulty communicating, Computer illiterate, Non-assertiveness, Information overload, Personal sloppiness, Professional sloppiness, Dead ended.
Unpaid bills, Unpaid taxes, Unpaid fines, Bad credit, Lack of resources, No savings, No will, No insurance, Extravagance, Debt.
Nicotine, Alcohol, Gambling, Prescribed drugs, Illegal drugs, Addictive behaviour, Fears, Anxieties, Doubts, Procrastination.
Now you can see an energy vampire in your life - what are you going to do about it?
In The Space Hoppers with Liz http://bit.ly/2pwLsPh we're exploring the pests that are in our life, what they are and what we are going to do about them. If you're interested, then why not join us.
About the Author Elizabeth Pickering is a Resilience coach, who helps people find success, focus and balance in their life. I take them from feeling overworked, overwhelmed, stuck and stressed to feeling energised, empowered and falling in love with life again.Working with sole traders, business owners and entrepreneurs, I keep them on track towards their goals, giving them energy, focus, motivation and the freedom to enjoy their life.